Not getting much action in bed? You may actually be turning him off. We tell women about some things they just shouldn’t do
Men will be men, no matter what! Neither do they think nor behave like women. That is a part of their DNA and the hard truth, no matter how much women may hate or despise this fact. And when it comes to that all important act, sex, each gender has its own peculiarities. So while endless lists exists of all things that men get wrong in bed, here we elaborate on some of the important feminine mistakes; the kind that will actually act as a deterrent instead of attracting him to you.
And so ladies, here’s a list of six important dont’s:
He’s sexed up, don’t deny it:
n Wherever men maybe from, the reality is this; they do not think like women. So, expecting your guy to put himself in your shoes and act accordingly is equivalent to setting yourself up for disaster. Remember, for men, romance and sex are not synonymous, in fact the two could at times have absolutely no connection to each other. So if your guy wants sex even though the mood is far from romantic, you either give into his wishes or bear the consequences. Sex, for men, is all about physical pleasure and his seemingly insatiable sex drive is pretty much a part of his maleness.
You’ve got a sexy side, don’t hide it:
n Good girls are good, but not in bed. If you over work the demure, non-sexual act, believe us, you’re not going to have much fun. Remember, the lack of feminine energy during sex may actually be read as a reluctance to initiate the act or to be an active partner in it. Most importantly, it’s an indicator of your reluctance to express your feelings and be assertive. So while in bed be that quintessential sex vixen. Do what it takes to seduce him, voice out your pleasure during the act — moans and groans included and most importantly, be loud and clear about your wants and needs, he will be more than happy to oblige.
He’s not a mind reader, don’t expect him to:
n Another important thing to remember is that guys are not mind readers, even though most women would love them to be. Hence, ladies, if you want something, you’ve just got to be blatantly frank about it. Believe us, your guy will actually be grateful if you let him in on your secrets as knowing your likes and dislikes will definitely take away the pressure of him having to guess and meet your expectations. If you’re expecting him to interpret your moans and groans and act accordingly, that’s not going to happen unless you tell him which of his actions please you and which do not and which are your pleasure spots versus the spots that tickle you. Also, doing this will make him sure that you’re just as passionate and excited about ‘doing it’ as he is and that, as most men will confess, is one of the biggest turn ons.
Fantasies are powerful, don’t ignore them:
n Guys fantasise about sex all the time and one of the best ways to keep them hooked on to you is to indulge their fantasies. Ladies, accept it, men have an almost insatiable appetite for sex. It’s almost like the thought about ‘doing it’ occupies their mind continuously. It’s not that women are any less excited at the prospects of sex except that psychologically they are not prone to making their desires too vocal and hence, blatantly obvious. But this is the mistake. So, even if you don’t believe in voicing out your dream sex scene, when it comes to your guy, make sure you give him the necessary action and just the way he imagines it. Also, try voicing out your fantasy to him, and you can be assured that he will go out of his way to make it a reality.
Variation is good, don’t by shy:
Variety is the spice of life, and it’s even more relevant when it comes to sex. Tried and tested is boring and you’ll never know what you’re missing if you display an unwillingness to explore options. So, if your guy suggests some new positions that he’s seen, read or heard about that he’d like you’ll to try out, don’t say no without even giving it a thought or a try. As we said before, being a sex vixen is far more pleasurable than playing shy bride.
Makeup sex is fun, don’t believe otherwise:
n Sex is all about the physical manifestation of your love and feelings for your partner. And while arguments and fights may be a part and parcel of each and every relationship, there’s no better way of making-up than with a hot and steamy romp between the sheets. In fact, you’d be surprised at the high level of passion just after a huge argument. Even if you do not feel that important emotional connect at the start, by the time you’ll are done, you’ll be closer and more connected than before. If you’re one of those who thinks sitting down and talking things out is the only solution to a fight, try this method out, the results could just surprise you in unexpected ways.
- Compiled by Rachel Fernandes
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